Member since 29-Sep-02
29-Oct-02, 04:10 PM (PST)|
4. "RE: Addictions"|
In response to message #2
LAST EDITED ON 29-Oct-02 AT 04:12 PM (PST)|
I agree 100% with what you said, MzAlyssa, in your first paragraph. Although I have 16 years of clean, drug-free living, with the help of a non-profit organization, I can't say I'm an expert or that I have "arrived". However, I have picked up enough tools for living without using.
And here I quote from "Addictive Drinking: the Road to Recovery For Problem Drinkers & Those Who Love Them" by Clark Vaughan: (I have substituted drug terms for the alcohol terms used in the book, because as far as I'm concerned, a drug is a drug, & addiction is addiction, to anything.) "As we have seen, (drugs) is not the real problem, only a symptom. Behind the addictive (using), superbly concealed much of the time, lies the ocean of abnormal stress---Physical, mental & emotional, rising & falling as surely as the mighty tide in the Bay of Fundy. Looking deeper still, we saw that this sea of abnormal stress was the direct result of fears that were constantly building & compounding. These fears drive us closer & closer to the brink of insanity, & more & more often to the only source of relief we know from the exquisite torture & terror--- booze, drugs, or other aberrant behaviors. These fears arise in large part from the steadily growing, desperate sense of defeat, frustration, & final, total impasse in our long, exhausting battle to find some real satisfaction in our lives, some true sense of fulfillment, some degree of valid purpose & worth. But even after digging down to this level, we are still faced with one more unanswered question: What is it that drives us so: What is it that I am searching for to fulfill ME?"
"We have learned, mostly from Alfred Adler, that what man needs most is to feel secure in his self-esteem."
"Each person needs to justify himself as an object of primary value, to be a hero in some way, to make the biggest possible contribution he can, to show that he COUNTS."
Cleaning up my act, one day at a time
Sweet Caroline ~:~) XXOO
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