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jacki0 (1 posts) Click to send private message to jacki0 Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
30-Apr-01, 06:30 PM (PDT)
"Resources for sexual addiction"
I fear that I am addicted to sex. While some here would say that is a good thing, it is not for me. I am struggling with issues of fidelity with my wife, and efficiency in my very challenging job. I am hoping that people can suggest any resources - serious support groups, egroups, websites, etc., that deal with the serious side of sexual addiction.

Many thanks.

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Biker (530 posts) Click to send private message to Biker Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
30-Apr-01, 07:53 PM (PDT)
1. "RE: Resources for sexual addiction"
Fuck all that, You control your own destiny. You and You alone decide what you do everyday. If you decide to be faithfull to your wife and family then you make that decesion everyday when you wake up and do not put yourself in the situation to become unfaithful.

If you are to weak to control your own destiny then you are destined to live a life in Hell someday when it all catches up with you.

I Know!
Biker

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TheGreek (335 posts) Click to send private message to TheGreek Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
30-Apr-01, 08:41 PM (PDT)
2. "Oh, come on, Biker..."
You are right, you have to really decide that you are not going to indulge, and be very strong about it. But the fact he is asking for information is a good first step. Cut him some slack!

I would do some web searches, but don't know enough to determine what I would see are good resources, so won't do it. Undoubtedly you will get some good advice from people here, just try to stay determined that you will make it.

And good luck!

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Strong (991 posts) Click to send private message to Strong Click to check IP address of the poster
30-Apr-01, 09:43 PM (PDT)
3. "RE: Resources for sexual addiction"
Maybe just take it slowly. I've cut my spending tremendously lately because of my finances.

Maybe you should go to a marriage counselor and see what issues you have in your relationship.

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errolflynn (37 posts) Click to send private message to errolflynn Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
30-Apr-01, 11:50 PM (PDT)
4. "RE: Resources for sexual addiction"
Where art thou, Father Confessor? EOM.
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nightowl31 (40 posts) Click to send private message to nightowl31 Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
01-May-01, 02:27 AM (PDT)
5. "RE: Resources for sexual addiction"
A licensed Marriage, Family, and Child Counselor (MFCC) would be a good place to start, to help you sort things out and then address specific issues. They could also provide you with additional resource information and contacts. I know of one MFCC, Katherine Yates, in Berkeley. She's good, IMO. I believe she also deals with addictive behavior. There are also several MFCCs listed under "Counseling" in the Guardian and SF Weekly. Good luck.
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BIGGUY56 (36 posts) Click to EMail BIGGUY56 Click to send private message to BIGGUY56 Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
01-May-01, 07:27 AM (PDT)
6. "RE: Resources for sexual addiction"
Sexual addiction is like any other and advice like "take it slow" however well intended is like telling an alcoholic to "just drink less". There is a support group modeled after AA; and this will probably draw just bunches of opinions from folks that have an opinion unsupported by facts but what's knew. The group is called Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous. No I haven't gone there but I'm aware of it. As an aside, like AA, it is self supporting so you could literally go for free. Good luck.

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Iknow (2 posts) Click to send private message to Iknow Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
01-May-01, 11:27 AM (PDT)
7. "RE: Resources for sexual addiction"
It is not as easy as willpower. Many have tried that and failed over and over again. For example, Kwanz proclaimed his intention to give up and less than a week later he was posting details of his latest exploits. The problem cannot be solved alone because isolation is a hallmark of the disease. Also the sexual acting out is only a surface manifestation of much deeper issues. The first step is to work on the symptoms (sexual acting out) but the next steps are the ones which bring true healing. Also "cutting back" for the most part doesnt work either for true addictive behavior.

SLAA is one resource and SA is another.

If you want details of meetings or have other questions about getting help, please leave me a message in my inbox and I will try to help you.

Good Luck

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Kwanz (355 posts) Click to send private message to Kwanz Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
01-May-01, 08:25 PM (PDT)
10. "RE: Resources for sexual addiction"
IKnow,
Thanks man. I know when to stop. Yes I did go back. Lets see how long I stay away this time. Its just fun. I may set a limit to the visits or the dollar value. If I set a dollarvalue say 3000 a month then I can do 10 Nicole's in a month 100 sw's. but my limit I am setting is 1 lady a month. I will try this and report later.
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panther (488 posts) Click to send private message to panther Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
01-May-01, 11:59 AM (PDT)
8. "Resources: SLAA (link)"
I've attended SLAA meetings, and found them an extremely valuable resource. I've heard that SF/Bay Area meetings are particularly good.....shop around until you find one you like where you feel welcome and comfortable.

The national organization link is:

http://www.slaafws.org

You can email them for local meeting info or look up the local phone number in the SF phonebook under 'Sex and Love Addicts'anonymous.


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alienfap (1 posts) Click to EMail alienfap Click to send private message to alienfap Click to check IP address of the poster
01-May-01, 05:46 PM (PDT)
9. "RE: Resources for sexual addiction"
I know a method to alleviate this that will very likely work for you. It has worked for some very severe cases, one being my own. (Your inability to focus at work is what clued me in.) Please email me or let me know how to email you. There's a lot that I can tell you.
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