>>"Can someone recommend a respectable but not extravagant hotel where business can be conducted without attracting undue attention".....
I've mentioned this before.....
You CAN get decent rates at the Hyatt Regency (Embarcadero Center)in downtown San Francisco. Their 'specials' are around $175 - $210 for VERY nicely appointed rooms.
The thing I like about the Hyatt is that it's such a 'thoroughfare' -- with conventions, pedestrians, etc -- that thre are 1001 reasons you might be there AND there are so many people walking around that it's easy to be anonymous. And, with the interior atrium being so spectacular, even if you bumped into your WIFE on an upper floor, you COULD say you were awestruck walking through the lobby and were just sightseeing!
Of interest to more than a few of you I'm sure, they ALSO offer HALF DAY rates (either 8-4 or 9-5) for around $125. That's pretty good for downtown SF.
Caveat: do NOT park there. The valet parking is a ripoff at $38! Providers should tell their clients to park at Embarcadero Center or ANYWHERE else.
Finally, if you mention that you saw a providers' ad on Eros-Guide, you will get a complimentary 'Hyatt Tricks' ammenity in your room which includes a vibrator, bathrobe, 2 condoms, lubricant and a live sheep!