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march26 (42 posts) 24-Apr-01, 10:15 PM (PDT) "girlfriends/wives..." just wanted to throw a question out there: how many of you hobbyists are in a long-term girlfriend relationship or are married? myself, i've been in a relationship for about almost 4 yrs now. the relationship is great, girlfriend is amazing, beautiful, and we have an good sex life too. so, why have i started and continue to go to AMPs? not quite sure, but i think it's because i enjoy the newness and the excitement that just can't be initiated again after you've known someone for a while.   Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

RE: girlfriends/wives..., escritic, 08:26 PM, 25-Apr-01, (1) question for 3/26, panther, 09:41 PM, 25-Apr-01, (2) RE: question for 3/26, march26, 08:40 AM, 27-Apr-01, (6) RE: girlfriends/wives..., bigsnausage, 00:47 AM, 26-Apr-01, (3) RE: girlfriends/wives..., TheBopper, 08:43 AM, 26-Apr-01, (4) The "Big Buck Syndrome", MrWood, 04:51 PM, 26-Apr-01, (5) RE: The "Big Buck Syndrome", ElephantBalls, 11:05 AM, 27-Apr-01, (7) RE: The "Big Buck Syndrome", HavanaRon, 11:36 AM, 27-Apr-01, (8) RE: The "Big Buck Syndrome", chinoloco, 02:30 AM, 28-Apr-01, (13) RE: girlfriends/wives..., Thread, 12:51 PM, 27-Apr-01, (9) RE: girlfriends/wives..., Nicole_Farallon, 01:18 PM, 27-Apr-01, (10) RE: girlfriends/wives..., Hezekiah, 11:46 AM, 28-Apr-01, (14) RE: girlfriends/wives..., GPenn, 02:01 PM, 27-Apr-01, (11) RE: girlfriends/wives..., Nicole_Farallon, 04:37 PM, 27-Apr-01, (12)

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escritic (1407 posts) 25-Apr-01, 08:26 PM (PDT) 1. "RE: girlfriends/wives..." LAST EDITED ON 25-Apr-01 AT 08:29 PM (PDT) I am as single as it can get. Because the undefeated is the loneliest.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

panther (467 posts) 25-Apr-01, 09:41 PM (PDT) 2. "question for 3/26" Does she know? What do you tell her? panther   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

march26 (42 posts) 27-Apr-01, 08:40 AM (PDT) 6. "RE: question for 3/26" she doesn't know (she would freak if she found out, i think!). and I don't have to tell her anything because I'm pretty discreet about going. (usually during the day, when i can take an hour or two off) 03/26   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

bigsnausage (17 posts) 26-Apr-01, 00:47 AM (PDT) 3. "RE: girlfriends/wives..." I have also seen providers when in a relationship, the thing that drove me to it was the frustration of life getting in the way of our sex life. The longer we were together the less frequent the sex became, it was still good, just lacking in frequency and as a man frequency is important to me. Seeing a provider is exciting and fresh and she is--or should be--ready when you arrive, none of the long preliminary preparations that must take place with the significant other before the act can begin.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

TheBopper (194 posts) 26-Apr-01, 08:43 AM (PDT) 4. "RE: girlfriends/wives..." I'm single (divorced). When I was married, I didn't partake in the hobby, and discovered it about a year after my divorce. Since then, I have had a couple of relationships for several months, and have been monogamous when in a relationship, but I'm not sure I could stay that way for a really long time now that I have enjoyed the hobby. I feel like sex in a long term relationship can stagnate, and if it did, it would be hard not to go back to seeing providers.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

MrWood (104 posts) 26-Apr-01, 04:51 PM (PDT) 5. "The "Big Buck Syndrome"" Happily married for many years. I have an attractive wife that never turns me away. The urge to see providers is not because of high testosterone levels, I can guarantee it. It is more primal than that. I think it is the “Big Buck Syndrome”, it has to do with an instinct to take over and mate with the entire herd.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

ElephantBalls (71 posts) 27-Apr-01, 11:05 AM (PDT) 7. "RE: The "Big Buck Syndrome"" Well stated!   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

HavanaRon (5 posts) 27-Apr-01, 11:36 AM (PDT) 8. "RE: The "Big Buck Syndrome"" I am in the same boat and I agree. These girls probably have saved my marriage, because without them I don't know if I would want to stay married (life would not be as interesting, anyway) and I am not willing to take a chance on a girlfriend who might become a fatal attraction.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

chinoloco (71 posts) 28-Apr-01, 02:30 AM (PDT) 13. "RE: The "Big Buck Syndrome"" I am in the same boat. Love my wife, but the variety of sex life helps the marriage alot. Thats why I use providers.. alot safer then the fatal attraction my buddy is going through now.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

Thread (12 posts) 27-Apr-01, 12:51 PM (PDT) 9. "RE: girlfriends/wives..." I am married but my wife has not wanted to have sex for a few years now. When I evaluated all of my choices, like divorce, having affairs, or never having sex again, I chose instead to visit a pro every month or so. I love my wife and I do not want a relationship outside of my marriage, I just want to rock and roll every so often. Seems to be working so far.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

Nicole_Farallon (160 posts) 27-Apr-01, 01:18 PM (PDT) 10. "RE: girlfriends/wives..." I think that is a sane solution to your problem. Women cannot expect men to be faithfull and go with out sex indefinately. And I believe that you can be a good husband even if you do have sex outside the marriage occasionally. It is much better to go to a professional than to have an affair. I am lucky in that I have an open relationship with my husband and he tells me that sometimes he would like a little "strange pussy" as he calls it. But again I get to see all of the "Big Bucks"   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

Hezekiah (67 posts) 28-Apr-01, 11:46 AM (PDT) 14. "RE: girlfriends/wives..." LAST EDITED ON 28-Apr-01 AT 11:48 AM (PDT) This is the same with me. But there's an extra dimension growing. I started going to providers because I needed sex, couldn't get it from/with my wife, but love her and don't want to have an affair. In a sense going to a provider is strictly a business relationship. But now I think that "strictly business" makes it sound too cold and impersonal. I like the ladies, and relate to them as people. We are a community with a common interest and we care about each other. It's kind of like the old-fashioned "corner grocery store": when I was a kid we'd go there every week to buy stuff (hence strictly business, no freebies) but also would stay and chat with the store-owner, get to know each other, enjoy each other's company, share our life experiences, etc. Even be there for each other at times of need. I have the impression that some of the ladies on this board would be there for me if I had a personal disaster of some kind. This does not replace my marriage. It's different, but it's valuable.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

GPenn (163 posts) 27-Apr-01, 02:01 PM (PDT) 11. "RE: girlfriends/wives..." Happily married >15 yrs, open relationship; we've both had lovers and sexual friendships with others. Started seeing providers a couple of years ago after a particularly painful and extremely emotionally and sexually intense affair. Trying to figure out a little more closely what I want out of specifically sexual relationships and if I can get it without risking such a debacle again. Started out playing with an MSC dancer (who doesn't do FS); wife has participated a few times too. Sometimes the libido is just up, and sometimes I look for more when my wife's health problems diminish our sex life (she likes this response because then she doesn't feel guilty about it, not that it's a message I've ever given her). Now seeing a couple of providers who are more personally "present" and intense, and also starting to sleep with new (non-professional) friends again. I was telling a provider about having recently consumated a 20 year flirtation... "no, that's not the same woman I told you about last time". She said "you're as big a slut as I am". Well, yeah. A certain percentage of my friendships have always been sexual. Don't think I could live in a monogamous relationship, not that I'm in the market for a new one.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

Nicole_Farallon (160 posts) 27-Apr-01, 04:37 PM (PDT) 12. "RE: girlfriends/wives..." You Big Buck you!!!   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

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