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escritic (1429 posts) Click to send private message to escritic Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
24-Apr-01, 09:25 AM (PDT)
"Handle The Truth 2"

Clients:

For those of you who date providers, do you feel comfortable (got balls?) to tell your friends, family, etc about your significant one's career?

Providers:

Do you feel comfortable telling your family, friends, etc about your job as a provider?


I myself don't have a problem because I would accept who she is.
As long as she is honest to me and we are in love, that's all it matters.

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jitrudi (43 posts) Click to send private message to jitrudi Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
24-Apr-01, 09:35 AM (PDT)
1. "RE: Handle The Truth 2"
I have a daughter and feel it is important to keep adult related topics quiet. Her mother who does work is very quiet about her work in our social circle outside of the thai girls.

My own business circles span the two worlds and so I am open about my life but dont put things in present tense often. I am not ashamed nor am I embarrassed but I do understand and respect the societal constraints.

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escritic (1429 posts) Click to send private message to escritic Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
24-Apr-01, 09:48 AM (PDT)
2. "RE: Handle The Truth 2"

Societal constraints need to be broken or changed first before people can talk about legalizing prostitution.

How can you advocate something that you feel ashamed or embarrassed of?

BTW, I think a lawsuit against your employer for discriminating your significant one's job would be interesting. Did I just come up with another Ally McBeal's plot?


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jitrudi (43 posts) Click to send private message to jitrudi Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
24-Apr-01, 10:52 AM (PDT)
3. "I am not"
ashamed or embarrassed just aware of the impact and not sure how to work around some of it...but working on it!

"BTW, I think a lawsuit against your employer for discriminating your significant one's job would be interesting. Did I just come up with another Ally McBeal's plot?"

LOL!!!



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escritic (1429 posts) Click to send private message to escritic Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
24-Apr-01, 12:13 PM (PDT)
4. "RE: I am not"

Somebody has to be the 'renegade' first.
Please refer to "Renegades Of Funk" by Rage Against The Machine

Although it may not be a 'noble' crusade like the equal opportunity, environmental awareness, etc. But it's still a matter of right and wrong.

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TheBopper (202 posts) Click to send private message to TheBopper Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
24-Apr-01, 01:07 PM (PDT)
5. "RE: Handle The Truth 2"
If I am dating a provider, my 3 closest friends usually know how I met her because they know I am active in the hobby. I don't tell my family or other friends -- usually we will have a preplanned story on who introduced us so if someone asks both of us, our stories are consistent. Although I would love to see this decriminalized, I still wouldn't tell most people that I am active in the hobby as it still isn't accepted by most of society.
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macimay (38 posts) Click to send private message to macimay Click to check IP address of the poster
24-Apr-01, 05:52 PM (PDT)
6. "RE: Handle The Truth 2"
Rodger the not socialiable acceptable part. The austrailian's are still very mean to the women who work in the biz. But then again, American men have much better behavior towards women in general.
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headhunter (44 posts) Click to send private message to headhunter Click to check IP address of the poster
24-Apr-01, 07:57 PM (PDT)
7. "RE: Handle The Truth 2"
Couldn't afford to. Morally, I don't see a problem. Legally, no matter how much everyone talks about how it should be de-criminalized (and I agree), it's still illegal.

Also, someone mentioned that society in general still looks upon prostitution unfavorably...a hold-over from our oh-so-moral founding fathers. Asian culture, in addition, is still deep in family dignity and appearance (i.e. the term "face"). I'm far enough removed not to care about myself too much, but close enough not to wish such unfavorable thoughts upon my family, ya know?

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Zoe (24 posts) Click to EMail Zoe Click to send private message to Zoe Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
25-Apr-01, 10:15 AM (PDT)
8. "RE: Handle The Truth 2"
Well most of my girlfriends families don't know what they do. But I have chosen to take the heat and tell my family just incase something happens to me. And because I am not ashamed of my profession. I used prostitution to get through a hard time and to pay for school. But after several years in the corporate world, I came back for the fun.
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escritic (1429 posts) Click to send private message to escritic Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
25-Apr-01, 08:22 PM (PDT)
9. "RE: Handle The Truth 2"

I admire your courage for telling your family.
However, would you tell a new acquaintance (for example, in a bar, party, bookstore, etc) of your job without hesitation? What about your friends?

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Zoe (24 posts) Click to send private message to Zoe Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
26-Apr-01, 04:11 PM (PDT)
10. "RE: Handle The Truth 2"
Well, most of my friends who are not in the business know what I do. And I would say in 95% of the social settings I am in I would happily tell of my chosen vocation. But if I am with a client or around my grandmother I would lie. Granny hates to hear me say it. LOL. Even my landlord is aware of it. I feel the more open and honest I am, the better I feel and I hate when people deceive me so I try to extend the same respect to them. And what a surprise that would be if something bad happen to me and not only the shock of me being hurt but how I got hurt would be a double whammy. I hope that answers your question. I have to say that all my "straight" friends are very supportive of me. And I love that.
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Strong (1037 posts) Click to send private message to Strong Click to check IP address of the poster
26-Apr-01, 08:44 PM (PDT)
11. "RE: Handle The Truth 2"
I'm glad you're honest about your profession. It's actually pretty common. I've seen several providers and they told me that they have told their family members. One girl's mother even encouraged her daughter to get into the business. I found that quite disturbing but not when I found out that her sister was doing it too. I could never admit to anyone of being a john.
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SunnyDale (8 posts) Click to send private message to SunnyDale Click to view user profile Click to check IP address of the poster
05-May-01, 04:06 PM (PDT)
12. "RE: Handle The Truth 2"
I agree. As long as she is honest and in love, that's all I care about.

I would have no problem telling my father, or anyone else except my mother - who would have a heart attack if she knew.

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