Just wanted to jump in and say, "yes, for some people, this can definitely be a very destructive force." Some people can drink socially and others are abusive drunks. Some people can gamble for fun and others will ruin their lives because of gambling. Or shopping. Or eating. For a number of people, sexual addiction can RUIN a life.
Thanks for the link to SexAA. I have found that by helping others to deal with their addiction, it helps me to deal with mine. Why don't you check out some of my threads in the archives. Some really brave souls posted their hearts.
You hang in there! My usual advice is to:
1) go talk to someone, but you already seem to already be doing that
2) if you are willing, ask for divine assistance, which AA is based on already
3) if you do slip, don't kill yourself over it, just clean up and get back on the wagon and realize that change takes time
By the way, there are a few rare providers who understand sex addiction, and would be willing to help set up something similar to a sexual nicotene patch system for you. They talk to you in a therapeutic manner, do Tantric kinds of stuff, can be trusted to discuss the other parts of your life that are pushing you toward sex providers, and work within a modality of breaking free of an addictive pattern. Look around for Hana, and I hear that Cyrille is thinking of doing this as well.
And for the rest of you who are NOT addicted, please ignore us and do not blast us with negative posts.